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I think you are absolutely right. Any kind of research that MAY result in harm should not be allowed. As much as it can help people and some good can come out of it, you never know what it would do to the child who is part of the research. Now i believe something like testing toys with children wouldnt be harmful, but again, you have to know their cultural background before you do things like this. Growing up I was not allowed to play with barbies, so imagine if someone had used me for research? My parens would have been livid! Either way, keep the testing on adults.
Its funny as a mom how you dont realize that we are “conditioning” our children as they grow. Sometimes I look back on my upbringing and realize how much my parents conditioned me, but not always in a good way. I think some conditioning can be harmful. Thats why when I was raising my daughter, I tried to “unlearn” some of my conditioning and recondition myself so that i didnt “harm” her in the same ways my parents might have “harmed” me. I think its important to always be aware of what we are doing and how we say things because you never know how it can affect a child.
Understanding ethics is a huge consideration when dealing with this topic. I think about how I was raised and how religious my parents were and they would never have allowed me to do anything that they didn’t approve of or anything that didn’t “praise the Lord” when doing. AS a young child I used to think my parents were jus being unfair, but as an adult I realize how much harm and bad situations my parents saved me from. AS a mom myself, I am the same way with my child. Although she is older now, I still try and look out for her because she is so susceptible to life and people around her
My favorite thing about your post is the cat example! It is so true. My cat has heard her cans of wet food clink together, so she knows that “this is the good stuff.” It comes in so handy when I cannot find her and I can clink tin cans together, doesnt matter what they are, and she comes running down the stairs. I have always thought it was so funny that I never actually taught her that, she just knew as soon as she heard the tin cans clink together. Sometimes even just opening a can and she will come running. It’s amazing to me how classical conditioning comes into play.
Kaley,
This definitely resonates with me and I understand what you mean about down playing your pain. Growing up, everyone would always “tough it out” in my family and you could never out do your grandma or mother with pain, exhaustion, or anything really. They always would say things dramatic like “I had surgery and still went to work the next day.” I always was so envious of their resilience. And as an adult I was the same way with my daughter. IN mexican culture you dont talk about pain, you just deal with it. I think it is amazing how this is passed down through generations.I absolutely relate to this. I remember my mother telling me that she had birthed all her children with no pain medications and when it came time for me to have my daughter, I decided to do the same. It made me feel like i had accomplished something, besides having a child. And now to this day when I am in pain, i remember that I had a whole kid come out of me and not one pain med to help. I can handle any pain and i believe my pain tolerance is much higher now because of it. Way to go Katie! You’re amazing!
I see your side of this, but also, if you could eliminate disease and gene mutations, wouldn’t that be kind of amazing? I mean imagine coming from a line of family where you have something genetically wrong with you that debilitates your life, and then with this technology you can get rid of it? Think of how many people could be helped. I see where you are coming from though, starting a family in a lab doesn’t sound so special. I loved the surprises that came with being pregnant with my daughter. Awesome point!
Although I’m super on your side with this topic, I also believe that gene technology can pave new ways for people. Think of people who can’t carry children, but want them!? Someday there could be artificial wombs to help women obtain their dreams of being a mother. Another way I think gene technology is amazing is that now you know the sex of the baby and have exactly what you before you even get pregnant. Think of a couple who wanted a girl and get 8 boys trying (my parents friend’s parents were those people) or a couple who want a boy and get 8 girls trying (a girl I worked with was one of 8 girls from parents trying for a boy). The only thing I fear is that the birth rate might actually go down from this. Either way, gene modification and technology is incredible and is only getting more mind blowing!
I think you hit the nail on the head with your comments Storm. Kids usually tend to follow the common trend and if everyone is lining up, they will do the same. I also think that they need that kind of structure to keep them grounded. And yes, females definitely can be aggressive as well, just as males. But i do think there is a bit of a difference. I loved hearing about you and your reasoning for the psychological perspective that you chose. You have definitely blossomed and would be a great counselor or psychiatrist.
One of the things I love about your comments are that you always use yourself as an example or you use a memory to add to your comments. This is so awesome to me. I love what you said about where a child was in a line and how it didn’t mean much. It is so true. And I love how you used the term “you’re getting out of line,” because I never thought about it like that.
I also agree with you when you said that not every one is aggressive. I truly believe that aggression is a choice. You can make the choice to remain calm and cool and collected and not act out aggressively. Awesome points Deb!
Deb,
You always feel so close to my heart when you speak about yourself. I too was a sheltered child till I was 18 and I had parents that, to this day, are still married. I always considered myself the “minority” because despite looking white, I was Mexican. I got made fun of bad and it always was hard to deal with, but I remained strong. You have grown into a very amazing woman and I love hearing about how your grew up and the changes you had to go through to become the woman that you are. You are a testimony to being grateful and appreciating life and I look so forward to seeing what an amazing nurse you become.Katie,
this passage resonates with me because, even though I was not a middle child, I always felt like it because my brother after me was always the “golden child.” It also was close to my heart because, despite being a one income family, my mom always made sure we were “spoiled.” I love that you guys went to catholic school, despite not being religious. My brother was also a track star. I love learning about you and what kind of family you came from. You’re an awesome person and I appreciate your comment. =)
